Saturday, June 24, 2006

One small boy took it personally

CNN just reported that Patsy Ramsey died of cancer in the early hours of this morning. I can't imagine what her life has been like since the death of her daughter, Jon Benet, in 1997.

Count me among the ever-growing number who believe Patsy had nothing to do with Jon Benet's murder. Nothing, in my opinion, could be worse than to lose a child under those circumstances; Patsy's pain must have been unbearable. I understand that suspicion must always fall first upon those in the family, those closest to the victim, but to have had to deal with so much suspicion and notoriety on top of the loss of a beloved child is beyond my imagination.

In the weeks after Jon Benet's murder, when it was the subject of continuous speculation on TV newscasts, most of the adults I knew were caught up in the story and hungry for new information. We "tsk-tsked" about the beauty pageant aspect of it, and we speculated about the guilt or innocence of all the various parties to the story. We felt sad about the little girl who died, but our thoughts quickly moved on to our desire for justice. We wanted to know who did it, and we wanted that person to pay for it.

I didn't think too much about how children might be reacting to all those news stories until one day when I walked through my daughter's livingroom and found my eight-year-old grandson sitting on the floor in front of the TV set. He was watching the news about Jon Benet with interest and obvious concern. As the news reporter moved on to another topic, my grandson looked up at me with hurt in his eyes and slowly shook his head. "She was just six years old," he said. "You know? That's somebody I could have married."

Rest in peace, Jon Benet. Your mama's with you now.


  1. Velvet, that is so sad. What a tragic story.

  2. I never for one moment thought she did it but I did suspect her husband for awhile. Tragic story.

  3. I think the Bolder Police got it in their mind that the Family was guilty and had a mind set! As my Sister Fleta has said about some people…once their mind is set no amount of logic or proof will change it! The media convicted them also. If the family had not had money they would have been in prison. I just can’t imagine loosing a child and having to live with all of the suspicion all the rest of your life, which she did.

  4. I agree . i thought that thing was terrible the media and the law tried everyway they could to make everone believe that her family did that terrible deed.first they said the son did it then it was proved he wasn't in town, then they said the father did it, not satified with that they then said the mother did it because the child wet the bed.

  5. I have no "strong" opinions about the entire case. BUT, I do know, if I were to lose my child, I could not wait until the day that I would be reunited with her. For Patsy, it was a glorious day.

  6. On a similar topic, what did all of you think about the Susan Smith case? I remember discussing it at work the day after she first appeared on TV and described her sons' abduction. All the men I worked with felt really bad for her, and all of the women--every single one--were convinced that her crying had been fake and that she knew more than she was telling. It was odd to me that our opinions were so clearly split along gender lines.


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